In memory of

Berneta Carstensen

August 31, 1924 - September 11, 2023
From: Wall Lake, IA
Berneta Carstensen

Berneta Carstensen

Born: August 31, 1924
Died: September 11, 2023
Age: 99
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   Berneta Carstensen, age 99, of Wall Lake, IA, passed away on Monday, September 11, 2023, at Loring Hospital in Sac City, IA. Berneta Bernice Rohde was born on August 31, 1924, to parents William and Jennie (Schoneboom) Rohde in Crawford County, IA. She grew up in Herring, a small town south of Wall Lake. Berneta attended Levey Township #8 Country School through the eighth grade. She was baptized at Peace Lutheran Church in Wall Lake on November 23, 1924, and later confirmed in faith there on June 13, 1940. Berneta moved to Salinas, CA, and lived there for several years working for Mass Stores, Inc. as an assistant manager before moving back to Iowa.
   On November 25, 1946, Berneta married Donald Aschinger in Wall Lake. This union was blessed with six children: Marsha, Connie, Marilyn, Randy, Lori, and Donna. Don and Berneta raised their family on farms near Westside, Nemaha and just outside of Lake View. They enjoyed golf, dancing, playing cards, attending sporting events, and family summer trips with the bowling group to Okoboji. Sadly, after 35 years of marriage, Don passed away on October 27, 1981, at the age of 56.
   On September 4, 1984, Berneta was united in marriage to Wallace Carstensen. From this union she gained two children, Connie and Kevin. Wally and Berneta farmed near Odebolt. She and Wally golfed, joined supper clubs, played cards, traveled and especially loved spending the winters in Arizona. They were married for 24 years before his passing on July 17, 2008.
   Berneta was more than a homemaker, she was a farm wife. She always helped around the farm and had a large garden every year, with plenty of canning at the end of each summer. She was always busy cooking meals for the family as well as feeding the farm helpers. The story goes that the traveling farm salesmen would pay a visit to the farm before the noon meal, primarily so that they would be invited to stay for her good cooking! Her passion was baking and she always made delicious batches of chocolate chip cookies, as well as making another dessert almost daily. In addition to her other activities, Berneta was skilled at embroidering. She would make each child/grand/great an embroidered set of tea towels as a very special and personalized wedding gift.
   Berneta truly enjoyed her morning coffee/breakfast with some very special ladies at Doc’s Place in Wall Lake. She was so happy to celebrate her 99th birthday with family and her coffee friends this past August 31st. Berneta lived independently until September 1st, when she moved into the assisted living facility. While she was a calm and relatively quiet personality, she certainly possessed a silent strength. She lived a full life and was a devoted, kind and loving wife, mother, grandmother and BIG grandma, who will be dearly missed by all who knew and loved her.
   Berneta is survived by her children, Marsha Larson of Lake Crystal, MN, Connie Wyckoff of Littleton, CO, Marilyn McBride of Denver, CO, Randy (Sandy) Aschinger of Lake View, IA, Lori (David) King of Round Rock, TX, Donna (Jeff) Rasmussen of Ida Grove, IA, and stepson Kevin (Terri) Carstensen of Odebolt, IA; grandchildren and their families, Michelle (Jay) Hanson - Alyssa (Sam) Gavin and Erika Hanson; Scott (Sara) Larson - Caden, and Griffin; Dana (Robert) Smith; Ryan McBride – Kush, Kali, and Sage; Marissa McBride; Aaron McBride (fiancée Phillipa Price) - Wilde; Tim (Jessica) Aschinger – Ryan and Reese; Grant (Megan) Aschinger – Zoey, Jayna, Pryce, and Suttyn; Steven Aschinger (fiancée Michell Birkland); Sarah (Aaron) Brumit – Evelyn and Claire; Amanda (Tyler) Palmer – Caroline; Erin Rasmussen; Parker Rasmussen; step grandchildren and their families, Distie (Seth) Profit – Zachary and Peyton; Charise (Rory) Flynn – Jadyn and Tegan; Durel (Kasey Jo) Carstensen – Devon, Conley, and August; sisters-in-law, Cecilia Rohde and Ardell Rohde; brothers-in-law Veryl Aschinger and Leonard “Stub” Carstensen, in addition to many nieces, nephews, and other extended family members and friends.
   She was preceded in death by her parents, William and Jennie Rohde; husband Don Aschinger; second husband Wally Carstensen; sons-in-law Gary “Gus” Larson and John McBride; grandson Jeffrey Wyckoff; stepdaughter Connie Carstensen; parents-in-law, John and Kathryn Aschinger; brothers Wilbert, Marvin, Lester, Duane and Gordon Rohde; sisters Orlean Dozark, Dorothy Subbert, Roma Jean Blum; brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law, Helen Rohde, Wynona Rohde, Melvin Dozark, Howard Subbert, Francis Blum, Rueben and Leola Aschinger, Manuel and Bonnie Aschinger, Lloyd Wright, Delores and LeRoy Rowedder, Paul and Joann Trost, Betty Aschinger, Marlin and Lorraine Aschinger, Jody Aschinger; Chris and Irene Carstensen, Ferne Carstensen, Paul and Elsa Morgan; Jules “Dick” and Evangeline Carstensen; Nick and Gene Carstensen, Jr., Sid and Rose Carstensen, Earl and Helen Bettin, and John and Frieda Collins.
Tribute Video
11:00 a.m., Monday
September 18, 2023
Peace Lutheran Church
Wall Lake, Iowa
Reverend Roger Carlisle
4:00-6:00 p.m., Sunday
September 17, 2023
Peace Lutheran Church
Wall Lake, Iowa
Wall Lake Cemetery
Wall Lake, Iowa


Wednesday, September 20, 2023 at 1:50 PM
“Remember all your family from Nemaha and saw your mother sometimes now out for dinner. She was blessed with long life and good family. May God give you His comfort and peace knowing she is with Him now. Don & Mary Ellen Hatch”
- Don & Mary Ellen Hatch
Monday, September 18, 2023 at 11:02 AM
“Thinking of your family right now. Feeling grief as well.”
- Anne King
Monday, September 18, 2023 at 9:12 AM
“My condolences to Berneta's family. Our families were friends growing up near Nemaha. She may be the last of my parents circle of friends. I was a classmate and good friend of Connie. ”
- Steve Wedeking
Saturday, September 16, 2023 at 6:46 PM
“My sympathy to all of Marsha and her siblings ”
- Ann McCoy
Friday, September 15, 2023 at 3:58 PM
“To Kevin & Connie and your families. Dennis and I send our prayers and sympathy for your loss. May God spread his blessings upon you at this difficult time. You all were such great neighbors and friends/classmate. ”
- Dennis & Ann (Hokanson) Snook
Friday, September 15, 2023 at 12:14 PM
“Dear Aschingers, I am not sure you'll remember who I am. We were close neighbors when you lived near Nemaha. My parents were Pete (died in '83 at 77) and Myrtle (died in 2002 at 92) Johnson, and we traded a lot of field work and got to know and enjoy both of your parents so long ago. Your mother certainly had a long and interesting life. I know you will miss her very much. ”
- Gale Johnson
Thursday, September 14, 2023 at 3:47 PM
“Deepest Sympathy to all the family!”
- Mike & K'Lee Naberhaus
Thursday, September 14, 2023 at 10:21 AM
“So very sorry to hear of Berneta's passing. She lived in the same duplex as my Mom, Mary Lou Koenck, and she was a very sweet, kind and beautiful woman. She will be missed. Condolences to all the family.”
- Alison (Koenck) Ehlers
Thursday, September 14, 2023 at 8:59 AM
“I knew this sweet lady over 60 years- her daughter Marsha was in my class and I watched the rest of the kids grow up -she will make a very great angel for the Lord!”
- Jim Wunschel
Wednesday, September 13, 2023 at 4:12 PM
“My thoughts and prayers to all of Bernita's family. She was a wonderful lady. I have memories of grand times at golf, basketball games and being with Bernita. God rest her soul in peace with her loved ones. Prayers for comfort for all of you. ”
- Donna Tjaden
Wednesday, September 13, 2023 at 4:12 PM
“She was a beautiful soul. I enjoyed talking with her on several times> She loved her family dearly. ”
- Catherine E. Cook
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